Are we incorrect in thinking an invitation to stay with us includes the expectation that they will spend at least some of the time actually WITH us?

 Are we incorrect in thinking an invitation to stay with us includes the expectation that they will spend at least some of the time actually WITH us?

Apparently you beach house owners also learn which friends you do not have.

Miss Manners is shocked that this happened to you even once. That it has happened so often as to be considered a trend makes her wonder whether you should rephrase  your invitations — and revise your guest list.

Meanwhile, you could detect intentions by asking what they eat for breakfast and whether they have any dinner restrictions. If the answer is “Oh, we won't be around for meals,” you can respond, “Oh, dear, we had hoped to enjoy your company. But as this isn't a good time for you to visit us, let's rethink it.”