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  Dear Miss Manners:   I am extremely heat-intolerant, and I live in an area where  I am reasonably comfortable 10 months of the year. In July and August, however, I am basically housebound, as anything over 75 degrees can induce loss of appetite, nausea, vomiting, dizziness and extreme lethargy. I am essentially limited to air conditioning and swimming for those two months. My issue relates to my summertime clothing and my gentleman friend (I am a woman). The only clothes I feel comfortable wearing during the summer months are loosefitting, sleeveless dresses, of which I have many. Even underwear is a sacrifice I make only when in the company of others. My significant other is the problem. Invariably, when he shows up to see me — whether we are going out, even just for fast food, or staying in to order a pizza and watch movies — he ALWAYS states that he feels underdressed . I have assured him repeatedly that I am not “dressed up,” I’m just HOT. What do I say to make him ...

  Are we incorrect in thinking an invitation to stay with us includes the expectation that they will spend at least some of the time actually WITH us? Apparently you beach  house owners also learn which friends you do not have. Miss Manners is shocked that this happened to you even once. That it has happened so often as to be considered a trend makes her wonder whether you should rephrase   your invitations — and revise your guest list. Meanwhile, you could detect intentions by asking what they eat for breakfast and whether they have any dinner restrictions. If the answer is “Oh, we won't be around for meals,” you can respond, “Oh, dear, we had hoped to enjoy your company . But as this isn't a good time for you to visit us, let's rethink it.”